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How to Get Involved In Spanking

July 18, 2023 3 min read


Spanking is an activity that involves striking the buttocks of a consenting partner for sexual pleasure or power exchange dynamics.

In the realm of BDSM, spanking is often used as a means of erotic stimulation, power exchange, or as a form of punishment in consensual role-playing scenarios. It can range from light and playful taps to more intense and painful strikes, depending on the preferences and boundaries of the participants involved.

Why Do People Like Spanking

People are drawn to spanking in BDSM for a variety of reasons. It can be a way to explore power dynamics, engage in role-play, and experience intense sensations. Spanking can also be a form of catharsis and release, allowing individuals to let go of stress and tension. Additionally, some people find that spanking enhances their sexual pleasure and arousal.

While spanking is a common practice in BDSM, it is important to note that it is not for everyone. Each individual has their own preferences, boundaries, and desires. It is essential to have open and honest communication with your partner(s) to ensure that everyone's needs and boundaries are respected.

Techniques of Spanking

Spanking involves the act of striking a partner's buttocks with an open hand or various spanking implements, such as paddles or floggers. To fully grasp the intricacies of spanking, it is essential to delve into the various techniques employed in this practice. Following are some of the common techniques for spanking.

Warm Up

Warm up technique in spanking is the use of sensual touch and massage. This helps to relax and prepare the body for the more intense sensations that may follow. Gentle strokes, caresses, and kneading of the muscles can increase blood flow and sensitivity, making the skin more receptive to touch. This can also create a sense of trust and intimacy between the spanker and the spankee, establishing a strong foundation for the scene.

There are some rarely talked about aspects that can greatly enhance the experience. One such aspect is the use of sensory play during the warm-up phase. This can involve the use of blindfolds, feathers, ice cubes, or other sensory tools to heighten the anticipation and arousal before the spanking begins.


The cupping technique in spanking involves the use of cups or suction devices on the buttocks or other parts of the body to create a sensation of pressure and suction. This technique is often employed as a form of sensory play and can elicit a range of physical and psychological responses.

The suction created by the cups can cause the blood vessels to dilate, allowing for a greater flow of oxygen and nutrients to the tissues. This can result in heightened sensitivity and a more intense physical experience for the recipient. Additionally, the increased blood flow can lead to the release of endorphins, which are natural pain-relieving chemicals produced by the body. This can contribute to a sense of euphoria and pleasure during the spanking session.

Fingers and Palm


The fingers can be used to create a more precise and targeted sensation, allowing the dominant partner to focus on specific areas of the submissive's body. By using different finger positions and pressures, the dominant can vary the intensity and sensation of the spanking, providing a more tailored experience.

On the other hand, the palm technique involves using the flat part of the hand to deliver a broader and more encompassing impact. This technique is often associated with a more traditional and classic form of spanking. The palm can be used to create a satisfying thud or a sharp sting, depending on the desired effect. It is important for the dominant partner to be aware of their own strength and the submissive's comfort level, as this technique can vary in intensity.

Incorporating Sex Toys

Sex toys can be a valuable addition to the practice of spanking in BDSM. Incorporating these tools can enhance the experience and provide a new level of stimulation and pleasure. When used correctly and safely, sex toys can add variety and intensity to the spanking session. 

Paddles come in various materials, such as leather, silicone, or wood, and each material provides a different sensation. Another option for incorporating sex toys in spanking is using impact toys, such as floggers or crops. However, it is important to ensure proper safety measures are in place when using these types of toys, such as using restraints or padding to protect the body.



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