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BDSM Collars, Sex & Slave Collars, Bondage

The History of the BDSM Collar

The collar is a rather controversial aspect of BDSM. The collar’s importance remains a crucial point of debate. The issue is that the rules of BDSM are not set in stone. BDSM leaves a lot of room for participants to “personalize” their experience. This is why the collar generates a lot of debate. It is because different people have a different perception of the collar.

However, the collar still remains part of BDSM. The collars come in different forms and material. Most of them are made out of steel and leather. Some usually have spikes or studs. Others come with provisions for attaching other BDSM gear. “Eternity” collars and normal jewelry can also pass for a BDSM collars. They type of collar worn depends on the reason why it is being worn. For instance, “Eternity” collars and jewelry are preferred for wearing during the day since they are discreet.

People wear collars for different reasons. Some of them are highlighted below.

1. To Signify the Start and End of a Scene.

Some collars are only used for a scene. The collar is usually worn by the submissive to show that the Dominant is now in control. This collar can have some significance during the session. It can be used in pet, slave or master roleplay.

The collar can also be used by the submissive to get into character. This collar is usually removed at the end of the scene.


2. To Show Relationship Status.

This collar is worn by the submissive to show others that they have an agreement with a Dominant. It is worn during the day and thus, it is usually very discreet.

This collar can be made out of anything and it is difficult for an “outsider” to recognize its significance. Different people have different rules as to whether such a collar can be removed. Some require that the collar stays on as long as the relationship continues.

3. To Show Ownership of the Submissive.

This collar is given to the submissive by the Dominant as a sign of “ownership”. This collar is meant to caution other dominants against approaching that submissive without the Dominant’s permission.

This collar shows the Dominant “protecting” the submissive against the approaches of other Dominants.

4. As a Relationship Starter Between a Dominant and Submissive.

This collar is worn by a submissive to indicate the beginning of a relationship with a dominant. This collar specifically shows that the submissive and the Dominant are beginning to understand the needs of their partner.

Different people have different needs and desires when it comes to BDSM. A dominant and a submissive might not share the same needs and desires. This collar signifies that they’ve begun to understand each other. If the Dominant and submissive are incompatible, the collar is taken off.

5. To Show that the Submissive has Began Training.

Even when the submissive and the Dominant are compatible, the submissive might still require some “training” to better serve the Dominant.

This collar can be removed at any time but it should not be removed when the dominant is present.

6. To Show Complete Commitment.

This collar is worn to show that the Dominant and the submissive are completely committed to each other. It is the BDSM version of a wedding ring. This collar can only be removed in case of an emergency. It signifies that the Dominant and the submissive are totally dependent on each other.

7. To Initiate Action.

This type of collar is worn by the submissive to initiate the beginning of a scene. Sometimes, this is usually dependent on the agreement between the Dominant and the Submissive.

The Dominant might require the submissive to wear the submissive before the kinkiness starts. Conversely, the submissive might prefer to have it on during the session. This collar is usually worn at home and can be taken off during or after the scene.

8. As a warning.

BDSM is highly accessible these days. There are many online sites these days where you can meet people interested in BDSM. These many online sites also have many applicants who do not respect BDSM.

Such people are usually assigned a “collar” that tells others not to get involved with them. It is meant to preserve the ideals of BDSM by identifying the people who misuse it.

9. To Show Participation in BDSM.

Some people simply wear a collar to show that they are a part of the BDSM community. It does not show commitment to anyone or anything.

Some people are against the wearing of a collar for this purpose. They say it diminishes the meaning of the collar within the BDSM community.

10. To provide Comfort during the Session.

As previously stated, BDSM has no concrete rules. The rules change for everyone but the core principles remain safety, sanity, and consent. Some people use collars to satisfy the safety and sanity tenets of BDSM.